10 Things The Pope and Bishops Should Study About Traditional Catholic Families

Pope Francis, the cardinals and bishops are suppose to be studying the Catholic family at this extraordinary Synod on the Family.  I have yet to hear about studying why traditional Catholic families are so successful.  I want to propose 10 good reasons why traditional Catholic families do so well and have such happy adjusted children.  In the long run they are going to be the only families that will survive because they are having many children.

holy_family_father_and_son_corbertgauthierI also want to compare that with 10 bad reasons to have children live in broken homes.

TRADITIONAL FAMILIES

1) They have the grace to live a holy and happy marriage from having received the Sacrament of Marriage.

2) They believe and keep the wedding vows they pronounced before God on the day they were married to be together: “in good times and in bad times, in sickness and health, all the days of our lives” or “till death do us part”.

catholic-family3) These families use their sexuality correctly, (biologically too), by having as many children as God so wishes to give them.  They understand that a child is the greatest natural gift God could ever give to a family.  They understand that they are not a commodity.

4) They practice their faith by going to the Holy Latin Mass and living their Catholicism all week long.  They educate their children well in the Catholic Faith, especially by the parents example.

5) They make sure that their children souls are not destroyed by educating them at good orthodox schools or homeschooling them.

Toribio Romo Family040-16) The fathers sacrifice to work and support their wives and family.

7) The wives sacrifice to stay at home and take care of the husband and children.

8) The husband and children feel loved by having the loving presence of their mother at home.  The mother is the warm sun of the house.  Mother working, no light or love.

vargas gonzales family 025-19) The children are so much better adjusted because they have both parents together.

10) Financially they are so much better off because a) they do not have vices that cause wasting money (DUI’s, gambling, shopping for things they do not need, drug use); b) live in one house with one payment and utility bill; c) do not have to be paying lawyers and other fees to fight for child support, alimony and visitation rights.

Martin-FamilyBROKEN FAMILIES

Here are 10 reasons why broken families are not good for children.

1) Children from divorced and homosexual homes are not well adjusted.  They are depressed and act out at school.  Ask any honest teacher.

2) These people do not have God’s graces to help them to overcome lust and selfishness.  There is a very high rate of sexual abuse by stepfathers of their adolescent stepdaughters.   There is also a disproportionate amount of fighting, domestic violence and law suits.

3) Because they are living in sin, (even if they say it is not sin, it is still sin in God’s eyes) they give a very bad example to their children.  Children have to see their parents sleeping with other partners.

4) Many times they do not practice their Catholic faith by going to Holy Mass every Sunday.   They may put their children in Catechism, but it is not re-enforce at home.

5) Sex is mainly for lust, sexual gratification, so they have few children and see them more as what they had when they wanted to have them.  Other children are killed in the womb or are seen an added burden.

6) Most mothers work and are tired and do not have the energy to listen, love and be with the children when they get home from school.  They are unable to homeschool because of work.  The children get away with a lot (do what ever they want, listen to any music they want, see what every they want on youtube, TV, Computer), while dad and mom are working.

7) Fathers who have children from a previous relationship and who are not living with him, have to work more to pay child support.  Sometimes they are also paying alimony on top of that.  They also have less money because of the law suits and other self destructive activities that come from living a life of sin.

8) Most step children resent having an other person in their biological parents life.  They also do not like having a step parent telling them what to do or who may discipline them.

9) Children from divorced and single parent homes have a low rate of success in their own marriages.  Many do not want to every make a commitment because of what they have gone through.

10) Children from single, divorce and homosexual homes have higher rate of substance abuse and gang evolvement.

 

St. Luke The Evangelist Oct. 18th

Luke_painting the Virgin_GOSSAERT, Jan (Mabuse)“St. Luke was a physician of Antioch, who, as appeareth from his writings, knew the Greek language. He was a follower of the Apostle Paul, and his fellow traveller in all his wanderings. He wrote a Gospel, whereof the same Paul saith We have sent with him the brother, whose praise is in the Gospel throughout all the Churches 2 Cor. viii. 18. Of him, he writeth unto the Colossians, iv. 14: Luke, the beloved physician, greeteth you. And again, unto Timothy, II. iv. 11: Only Luke is with me. He also published another excellent book entitled The Acts of the Apostles, wherein the history is brought down to Paul’s two years sojourn at Rome, that is to say, until the fourth year of Nero, from which we gather that it was at Rome that the said book was composed.

The silence of Luke is one of the reasons why we reckon among Apocryphal books The Acts of Paul and Thecla, and the whole story about the baptism of Leo. For why should the fellow traveller of the Apostle, who knew other things, be ignorant only of this? At the same time there is against these documents the statement of Tertullian, almost a contemporary writer, that the Apostle John convicted a certain Priest in Asia, who was a great admirer of the Apostle Paul, of having written them, and that the said Priest owned that he had been induced to compose them through his admiration for Paul, and that he was deposed in consequence. There are some persons who suspect that when Paul in his Epistles useth the phrase, According to my Gospel Rom. ii. 16, Tim. ii. 8, he meaneth the Gospel written by Luke.

However, Luke learned his Gospel not from the Apostle Paul only, who had not companied with the Lord in the flesh, but also from other Apostles, as himself declareth at the beginning of his work, where he saith They delivered them unto us, which from the beginning were eyewitnesses and ministers of the word, i. 2. According to what he had heard, therefore, did he write his Gospel. As to the Acts of the Apostles, he composed them from his own personal knowledge. He was never married. He lived eighty-four years. He is buried at Constantinople, whither his bones were brought from Achaia in the twentieth year of Constantine, together with the relics of the Apostle Andrew.”  1960 Roman Breviary

Popularity Comes With Progressive Catholicism

As the Church officials try to make morality based on popular opinion as we see right now at the bishop’s Synod in Rome, they become very popular.

banners-SINODO--ENAlmost every Catholic today has chosen their own particular brand of Catholicism, with their own set of rules of what is right or wrong.  Since these Catholics are the majority and go along with the cultural trend they believe exactly the same as what most people in the world believe in.   The Church officials who go along with the ‘pick and chose’ Catholics, they are very much liked.

They are so happy to find the pope, cardinals, bishops and priests who go along with and support them in what every is their own personal beliefs.  Since pope, and most of the cardinals, bishops and priests are liberal, this great majority of Catholics are very very happy.  These Church officials have become very popular and get along with everyone.

1_0_735390If on the other hand, if the pope, cardinals, bishops and priests were to speak the truth about the Church’s teaching on what is moral, they are labeled “extremest” and “un-merciful”.  They will also be extremely un-popular.  Thank God there are still a few cardinals, bishops and priests who are willing to speak the Catholic truth in spite of being ostracized and persecuted.

030triniLet us keep on praying for the bishop’s synod and for the cardinals and bishops who are staying loyal to Jesus no matter what the price.

We also need to pray for the continuation of the Extraordiary Synod that has been announced for Oct. 2015.

“(Vatican Radio) As discussion at the Extraordinary Synod of Bishops on the Family got underway Monday morning, it was announced that the second phase of this process – next year’s Ordinary Synod – will be held October 4-25, 2015, and will have theme: The vocation and mission of the family in the church and the modern world.” News.Va

Comment Frome Uganda On St. Charles Lwanga

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“Thank you Father for all the postings that I receive, read religiously, treasure and meditate upon. Thank you for zealously upholding the beauty of our Catholic Faith and reminding us of the importance of memory. As a Ugandan Catholic, the witness of the Ugandan martyrs remains a challenge to me and my fellow Catholics to respond unreservedly to the Gospel of Christ in our own situation. Saint John Paul II said the following in his homily at the Uganda Martyrs Shrine at Namugongo during his Apostolic visit in February 1993:
“All that is truly African, all that is true and good and noble in Africa’s traditions and cultures, is meant to find its fulfilment in Christ. The Uganda Martyrs show this clearly: they were the truest of Africans, worthy heirs of the virtues of their
ancestors.”
charles-lwanga-50-148x350We, Catholics in Uganda, also share many of the challenges that currently plague fellow Catholics in sister local churches in the West, i.e. poor catechesis, anthropocentric liturgies, broken families, gender ideologies propagated in the name of modernity, materialism, among others.
Personally, I came to love Traditional Catholicism from the stories told by my mother who was educated by the Bernadine sisters in Uganda and the United Kingdom, the photos she has of Catholic religious and liturgical life before V2, and then my own experience of the TLM in the UK as a Ph.D student as well as lots of reading. I sorely miss the TLM here in Uganda but find solace in your postings.
God bless you Father.”

St. Margaret Mary Alacoque And Jesus Treasure Of Love

“St. Margaret Mary Alacoque was a religious of the Visitation Order. Apostle of the Devotion to the Sacred Heart of Jesus, born at Lhautecour, France, 22 July, 1647; died at Paray-le-Monial, 17 October, 1690.

stmargaretmaryalacoque Her parents, Claude Alacoque and Philiberte Lamyn, were distinguished less for temporal possessions than for their virtue, which gave them an honourable position. From early childhood Margaret showed intense love for the Blessed Sacrament, and preferred silence and prayer to childish amusements. After her first communion at the age of nine, she practised in secret severe corporal mortifications, until paralysis confined her to bed for four years. At the end of this period, having made a vow to the Blessed Virgin to consecrate herself to religious life, she was instantly restored to perfect health.

Margaret Mary Alacoque_stained glassThe death of her father and the injustice of a relative plunged the family in poverty and humiliation, after which more than ever Margaret found consolation in the Blessed Sacrament, and Christ made her sensible of His presence and protection. He usually appeared to her as the Crucified or the Ecce Homo, and this did not surprise her, as she thought others had the same Divine assistance.

When Margaret was seventeen, the family property was recovered, and her mother besought her to establish herself in the world. Her filial tenderness made her believe that the vow of childhood was not binding, and that she could serve God at home by penance and charity to the poor.Then, still bleeding from her self-imposed austerities, she began to take part in the pleasures of the world.

Sacred Heart St Margaret Mary_stained glassOne night upon her return from a ball, she had a vision of Christ as He was during the scourging, reproaching her for infidelity after He had given her so many proofs of His love. During her entire life Margaret mourned over two faults committed at this time–the wearing of some superfluous ornaments and a mask at the carnival to please her brothers.

On 25 May, 1671, she entered the Visitation Convent at Paray, where she was subjected to many trials to prove her vocation, and in November, 1672, pronounced her final vows. She had a delicate constitution, but was gifted with intelligence and good judgement, and in the cloister she chose for herself what was most repugnant to her nature, making her life one of inconceivable sufferings, which were often relieved or instantly cured by our Lord, Who acted as her Director, appeared to her frequently and conversed with her, confiding to her the mission to establish the devotion to His Sacred Heart.

Margaret Mary Alacoque_holy cardThese extraordinary occurrences drew upon her the adverse criticism of the community, who treated her as a visionary, and her superior commanded her to live the common life. But her obedience, her humility, and invariable charity towards those who persecuted her, finally prevailed, and her mission, accomplished in the crucible of suffering, was recognized even by those who had shown her the most bitter opposition.

Margaret Mary was inspired by Christ to establish the Holy Hour and to pray lying prostrate with her face to the ground from eleven till midnight on the eve of the first Friday of each month, to share in the mortal sadness He endured when abandoned by His Apostles in His Agony, and to receive holy Communion on the first Friday of every month.

sacredheartIn the first great revelation, He made known to her His ardent desire to be loved by men and His design of manifesting His Heart with all Its treasures of love and mercy, of sanctification and salvation. He appointed the Friday after the octave of the feast of Corpus Christi as the feast of the Sacred Heart; He called her “the Beloved Disciple of the Sacred Heart“, and the heiress of all Its treasures. The love of the Sacred Heart was the fire which consumed her, and devotion to the Sacred Heart is the refrain of all her writings. In her last illness she refused all alleviation, repeating frequently: “What have I in heaven and what do I desire on earth, but Thee alone, O my God”, and died pronouncing the Holy Name of Jesus.

The discussion of the mission and virtues of Margaret Mary continued for years. All her actions, her revelations, her spiritual maxims, her teachings regarding the devotion to the Sacred Heart, of which she was the chief exponent as well as the apostle, were subjected to the most severe and minute examination, and finally the Sacred Congregation of rites passed a favourable vote on the heroic virtues of this servant of God. In March, 1824, Leo XII pronounced her Venerable, and on 18 September, 1864, Pius IX declared her Blessed. When her tomb was canonically opened in July, 1830, two instantaneous cures took place. Her body rests under the altar in the chapel at Paray, and many striking favours have been obtained by pilgrims attracted thither from all parts of the world. Her feast is celebrated on 17 October.”  1914 Catholic Encyclopedia

St. Margaret Mary Alacoque Oct. 17

Margaret Mary Alacoque_GIAQUINTO, Corrado“St. Margaret Mary Alacoque was born of good parents in a village of the diocese of Autun, and even from her early years gave signs of her future sanctity. Burning with love for the Virgin Mother of God and for the august Sacrament of the Eucharist, as young woman she vowed her virginity to God. When she had entered the Order of the Visitation, she began to shine at once with the brightness of the religious life. She was adorned by God with the highest gifts of prayer, with other gifts of grace and with frequent visions.

sacredheart21The most celebrated was this: when she was praying before the Eucharist, Jesus shewed himself to her with his Heart burning with flames and encircled with thorns, in his open breast, and he commanded that, in return for such love and to expiate the injuries of ungrateful men, she was to strive to institute the public cult of this Heart, promising in return great treasures of heavenly grace.

Sacred HeartShe was famous for her religious perfection and, by the contemplation of divine things, each day she became more united with her heavenly Bridegroom. To him she went in the forty-third year of her age, in 1690. Renowned for miracles, she was numbered among the Saints by Benedict XV. Pope Pius XI extended her Office to the universal Church.” 1960 Roman Breviary

While Vatican Soft Pedals Homosexuality Pastors Are Subpoena In Houston TX

As we have seen, the Synod on the Family, is trying to include the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender, (LGBT) agenda into Catholicism.  I am still baffled at what homosexuality has to do with a happy holy Catholic family.

holyfamily15On the USCCB website, they have a picture of the Holy Family on their info on the Synod.  Other sites too, include traditional paintings of St. Joseph, Mary and Jesus on their Synod info bulletin.

waste-of-womanMeanwhile here in the United Statest, the mayor of Houston Texas has issued Subpoenas to christian pastors who were involved in the petition to stop the “Bathroom Bill” from passing.   Fox News

Senior pastor of Grace Community Church, Steve Riggle has been subpoenaed for having worked on the petition to not allow men to go into public women’s bathrooms.  He stated: “Forcing women, in particular, using city facilities to be subjected to cross-dressing men invading their privacy is beyond the pale and offensive to every standard of decency.”

Here is part of the subpoena given to pastor Riggle.

12. All speeches, presentations, or sermons related to HERO, the Petition, Mayor

Annise Parker, homosexuality, or gender identity prepared by, delivered by, revised by, or approved by you or in your possession.

13. All documents, studies, information, communications, or other data relied on in connection with the Petition to check, confirm, or ensure the truthfulness and accuracy of the statements made in the Petition, including but not limited to the statements in the Petition (or in any training materials prepared for Petition Circulators or anyone else involved in the collection of any signatures for the Petition) that “Biological males ARE IN FACT allowed to enter women’s restrooms in Houston under Mayor Annise Parker’s “Equal Rights Ordinance”, thereby threatening the physical and emotional safety of our women and children!” and that “Her ERO creates UNequal Rights for a tiny group o f people by taking away rights o f safety and privacy for the vast majority of our women and children!”)  The whole subpoena can be read here

Keys to the Kingdom_LORENZO VENEZIANOWe will see more and more of this because we have given Jesus Christ’s Kingdom over to man.  Jesus’ laws are garbage, man’s laws are supreme.  It all began here in the United States when the protestants and freemasons purposely went against Catholicism by separating Church from Government.  Now, when it is too late, the protestants are claiming:

“The state is breaching the wall of separation between church and state.”

We traditional Catholics know that the Catholic Church, faithful to Jesus Christ’s 2000 year old teachings, dictates to government, not government to God.

Echoing what was said in Hitler’s time, some pastor correctly said: “We can no longer remain silent. We must stand together – because one day – the government might come for your pastor.”

St. Hedwig Oct. 16

351St. Hedwig was illustrious for her royal birth, being the maternal aunt of St Elisabeth, daughter of the King of Hungary. At the age of twelve she was given in marriage to Henry, duke of Poland, and brought up the children of their marriage in the fear of God.

435px-HedwigAltarXXXIn order to devote herself more closely to the service of God, she persuaded her husband to agree to a vow of continence for both of them. Upon the death of her husband she took the Cistercian habit in the monastery of Trebnitz, where she was intent on contemplation and took her delight in continually assisting at Divine Office and at Mass.

Landkern_St._Servatius_10418Adorned with the highest virtue, most severe penance, lwise counsel and candor of soul, she became an example of highest religious perfection. She was accustomed to make herself subject to all and to undertake the most menial tasks, ministering to the poor on her knees, and washing and kissing the feet of lepers. Her wonderful patience and constancy of soul where shown especially at the death of Henry, the duke of Silesia, her son, who was killed in battle by the Tatars. She was famous for miracles, especially after her death, and was enrolled among the Saints by Clement IV.

St. Theresa Of Avila Was Not Progressive, Went Backwards To Original Traditional Carmelite Rule

St. Theresa of Avila is obviously one of the greatest Catholic saints.  She is a mystic and doctor of the Church.  She died Oct. 4th. 1582

St.-Teresa-7Her body is incorrupt to this day and you can see her incorrupt heart that was pierced by God’s angel at her “Transverberation”.

St.-Teresa-10Incorrupt Heart Of St. Theresa Of Avila With Spear Hole In It

She believed greatly in exorcized holy water in chasing the demons away.  St Joseph was her constant protector.

As time had gone on, the Carmelite Order had become lax in its poverty, prayer and silence.  Like St. Theresa, many of the nuns had come from wealthy nobel families.  There was a lot of worldly life going on in the convents with many wealthy visitors.  Even many nuns had “private property” lent to them by their wealthy families.

St.-Teresa-of-AvilaSo she decided to go back to the original Carmelite Rule.  She shows us that going back, rather than forward is good.  She decided against the sisters being involved in apostolates outside the cloister.  She founded many small communities that truly lived silent lives of contemplation.  She is a doctor on how to live the contemplative life.

St.-Teresa-9Arm Of St. Theresa Of Avila

Her reformed Order is called Discalced Carmelites because they went back to being barefoot.

St.-Teresa-11Tomb Of St. Theresa Of Avila

She also was persecuted by the Church, along with her helper (with the reformation of her order), St. John of the Cross.  So when we traditional Catholics want to go back to Catholic basics, do not be surprised that we also are being persecuted by the Church too.  We are so blessed to suffer for working for the purity of Catholic truth.

 

St. Charles Lwanga Burned To Death Rather Than To Sin By Homosexual Sex

 

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What would St. Charles Lwanga say about the push for accepting homosexual unions at the Synod.  He is a saint for being a martyr slowly burned to death for teaching the youth and men that homosexual sex was sin and to not have homosexual relationships with the King Mwanga.  His feast day is June 3rd.  
I also ask the question, Why are the pope and bishops talking about homosexuals at a Synod on the family?  Catholics have always taught that a family consist of grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, father and mother and their biological children.  Just the idea that all the homosexuals have descended on Rome for a Synod on the Family is absurd.  
All of you traditional Catholics that have had your money spent on sexual abuse law suits need to remind your bishops that their John Jay Study showed that most law suits were under age young men being abuse by homosexual priests.
OFFENSE CHARACTERISTICS
    • The largest group of alleged victims (50.9%) was between the ages of 11 and 14, 27.3% wer e 15-17, 16% were 8-10 and nearly 6% wer e under age 7. Overall, 81% of victims were male and 19% female. Male victims tended to be older than female victims. Over 40% of all victims were males between the ages of 11 and 14.  USCCB John Jay Study
Here is the story how St. Charles Lwanga died rather than support homosexuality.
charles-lwanga-50-148x350In the 1800’s the White Fathers reached Uganda as missionaries.  Among their converts were some men and male youth who were pages and attendants to King Mwanga.  When they found out that homosexual sex was sin, they resisted the advances of the homosexual King Mwanga.  
When the king killed a protestnt missionary, Joseph condemned his actions.  For this King Mwanga beat him with his spear, had his head cut off and body burned on Nov. 15, 1885.  HIs last words were: “A Christian who gives his life for God is not afraid to die.”
St. Charles Lwanga then took over teaching the Catholics in the king’s court and protected the youth and men from King Mwanga’s sexual advances.  In May 1886, the king asked a young page why he was avoiding him.  He replied because he was receiving religious instruction from Dennis Sebuggwawo and had learned that homosexual sex was wrong.  For this the king killed his teacher Dennis by thrusting a spear through his throat.
King Mwanga then had his compound closed and guarded so that none of the Catholics could escape.  Charles, knowing that they were going to pay for their faith, baptized four catechumens that night.  The king then separated the Christians from the pagans by saying:  “Those who do not pray stand by me, those who do pray stand over there.”  Fifteen youth and men, all under the age of 25, stayed faithful to their faith and were condemned to death.
They were forced to walk 37 miles to the place of their execution.  Along with them was a soldier James Buzabaliawo.  He told the king: “Goodbye, then. I am going to Heaven, and I will pray to God for you.”  And as he passed by the White Father Lourdel, he pointed to heaven with his bound hands and said: “Why are you so sad? This is nothing compared to the joys you have taught us to look forward to.”   Other youth kept joyful all the way to their execution.  
One of the martyrs was killed on the way by being cut and left to slowly die for three days.  When asked if his God would save him he replied: “God will rescue me.  But you will not see how he does it, because he will take my soul and leave you only my body.” 
Once arriving at Namugongo, the survivors were kept imprisoned for seven days. On June 3 1886 they were wrapped in reed mats, bound tightly and put on a fire.  They slowly died calling on the name of Jesus and saying: “You can burn our bodies, but you cannot harm our souls.”  St. Charles moaned and thrashed about, but never gave into screaming from the horrific pain of the flames.  
After King Mwanga’s death, the White Fathers returned to find one thousand catechumens waiting for baptism.StCharlesLwanga
  • Andrew Kagwa (Kaggwa, d. 1886) was a native chief of Kigowa and the royal bandmaster of King Mwanga. He was baptized in 1881, converted his wife, and became active in missionary work. He had gathered a large body of catechumens around him. Condemned to death for the faith, he right arm was severed from his body before he was beheaded.
  • Charles Lwanga (d. 1886) was a servant of the king, who was baptized in November 1885 and martyred the following June. He succeeded Joseph Mkasa as master of the pages and continued his predecessor’s censure of the king’s homosexual practices and corruption of the young pages. This intensified King Mwanga’s hatred of Catholics.
  • Denis (Dionysius) Sebuggwago (Sebuggwawo) (d. 1885) was a servant of the King. He was killed with a butcher’s cleaver by the king himself because he was taught teaching the catechism. He was the first victim of the persecution.
  • John Maria Muzeyi (d. 1886) practiced the corporal works of mercy until his martyrdom.
  • Joseph Mikasa (Mkasa, Musaka) Balikuddembe (d. 1885), was the Christian steward in charge of the pages, at the court of King Mwanga of Uganda. He was beheaded on November 15, when he denounced the king’s notorious immoralities and his murder of Joseph Harrington, a Protestant missionary, and his group.
  • Kizito (d. 1886), 13-year old boy, who went to his death “laughing and chattering,” was saved from the king’s pedophilic tendencies by Charles Lwanga, who baptized the child.
  • Mbanga (Mbaga) Tuzinde (d. 1886) was a page to the king and the adopted son of the chief executioner. He had to resist the pleas of his family up until the moment of he was thrown on the pyre at Namuyongo. At the last moment his father killed him with a blow to the neck to prevent him from suffering the agony of burning.
  • Matthias Kalemba (d. 1886) was a Membo judge, who was tortured to death.
  • Matthias Murumba, a Muslim assistant judge who converted, first to Protestantism, then to the Catholic faith. He was baptized by Fr. Livinhac, then martyred on Kumpala Hill.
  • Pontain Ngondwe (d. 1886), a soldier in the Royal Guard (Attwater, Benedictines, Bentley, Delaney, Farmer, Faupel, Gill, Thoonen, Walsh, White).  This list is from St. Patrick Catholic Church, Washington D.C. Saint of the day.

Today most of us traditional Catholics will not be slowly burned to death for speaking out the truth that homosexual sin is an abomination in the eyes of God. Yes it will earn us enemies in the Catholic Church and outside of her.  But may we learn from the heroic lives of these saints of Uganda how to stand to stand at one side and say, we are with Jesus Christ and His Church.  We are willing to suffer what ever for the truth.  Ask your progressive friends why these men were slowly burned to death if there is nothing wrong with homosexual sex?