Traditional Catholic Priest And Men Have Temptations Of The Flesh

For the last month, I have been going through some very severe temptations of the flesh.  Please pray for me.  This is effecting me in every part of my life.  This is very embarrassing to write about.  But for this reason, I am writing about the extreme temptations of the flesh that we men have to go through and of which women, (although they have their own temptations too), can never really understand.

Only men can truly understand the extreme difficulty for a men to be chaste.  

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God made us men physically and psychologically different from women.  The greatest disadvantage we men have, (and  it is God given), is that our private parts are outside of of our bodies and for this reason can so easily lead self abuse.  Women do not have this problem, (as I already stated, they have their own temptations).  That is why we men need to be extra vigilant when it comes to this built in terrible propensity to self-pleasuring ourselves.

The second thing is that we are psychologically designed, (again by God), to be aroused by sight.  This also is a great danger for us because all day long we are inundated with visual things, or immodestly dressed women, that can cause sexual attraction and arousal.  This is where we need to be very vigilant.

As soon as a we notice that a sight is causing sexual attraction, that is a signal for our eyes and mind to turn away immediately.  This is called ‘custody of the eyes‘.   It is helpful to replace the sexually loaded vision or thought with a holy thought and image like the beauty of the Virgin Mary.

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Many women, who dress immodestly, blame men for having dirty minds for having noticed their body parts they have put on display.  Over and over I hear men telling me that they are having bad thoughts while in church from the sexy way the women dress while attending Mass.  I have never heard a women say that she has bad thoughts during Mass because of how the men dress at Mass.

As a priest, just imagine what it is like to give Holy Communion, the Body of Christ, right above a woman showing off her chest.  It is especially obvious when they kneel down to receive Holy Communion.  It is simply charity to us men for women to dress modestly.

I think that most of us men are embarrassed to admit our sexual temptations.  Once, when I ran St. Francis Catholic Kitchen in Santa Cruz, California, a protestant minister friend told me that men are slightly sexually aroused over a hundred time a day from visual things.

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Yes, we priest and men need to be very very chaste and pure.  We need to do everything possible to never sin.  That is why viewing pornography is so horrible.  It excites what is already built into us and turns it into a monster.  And, when all said and done, we are responsible for any sin of the flesh, in spite of the X rated society we live in.

The devil’s first attack on us men is through our sexual weakness!

We need to always keep this in the forefront of our minds.  We need to ask Jesus, Mary and the Angels to help us be pure.  We need to go to confession regularly, especially if someone is fighting the vices of masturbation, adultery, fornication, pornography or using prostitutes.  Confession is a medicine waiting to be administered to the sick soul.  But recovery is a torture and take a lot of time and struggle.

I know that women have different struggles and temptations.  They to have to contend with concupiscence as well,  but it is in a different way from us men.  They need to understand our weakness and help us to be holy and pure.  We need to understand their weakness and help them be holy and pure.  Many women say they are weak when it comes to sexual advances for men.

Many years ago my friends would sing this German song at parties.  The words are in English but the accent is German.  This is the English West country version that is suppose to teach you the names of the the body in English.  As you sing the song, you point to the various parts of the body.

With my hands on my head, what have I here
This is my brain boxer my teacher dear
Brain boxer, nicky , nicky, nacky, noo
That’s what they taught me when I went to school

With my hands on my head, What have I here
These are my eye blinkers my teacher dear
Eye blinkers, brain boxer, nicky , nicky, nacky, noo
That’s what they taught me when I went to school

continues in the same vein with
nose wiper (obvious!)
tea strainer (mouth)
chin wagger (um..chin!)
bread basket (tummy)
back acher (back)
TROUBLE MAKER (one guess!)
wind breaker (bottom)
knee knockers (knees)
globe trotters (feet)

Although the gift of our sexuality is from God and is from which wonderful children come, nevertheless it is over and over a TROUBLE MAKER.

We are so blessed to be traditional Catholics and to know that sex is sacred and to be carefully housed in the Holy Sanctuary of Matrimony to produce other souls for God’s kingdom.

Good Samaritan

Each one of us has his own interpretation of the Good Samaritan parable.  Taking off from what the Church Fathers taught about it, I am going to expand on it for us Catholics trying to be holy, but often falling into sin.

 A certain man went down from Jerusalem to Jericho, and fell among robbers, who also stripped him, and having wounded him went away, leaving him half dead. And it chanced, that a certain priest went down the same way: and seeing him, passed by.  In like manner also a Levite, when he was near the place and saw him, passed by.  But a certain Samaritan being on his journey, came near him; and seeing him, was moved with compassion.  And going up to him, bound up his wounds, pouring in oil and wine: and setting him upon his own beast, brought him to an inn, and took care of him.  And the next day he took out two pence, and gave to the host, and said: Take care of him; and whatsoever thou shalt spend over and above, I, at my return, will repay thee.  Luke 10:30-35.

Good Samaritan_LOTH, Johann KarlThe man who fell among robbers is Adam and the robbers are the devil and his angeles who stripped him of grace, peace and dignity.  They left him deeply wounded with the effects of his sin, (concupiscence) and barely alive with God’s friendship and life.

The priest and levite represent the Old Law which cannot heal, but only lets you know what is wrong.  Christ is the Samaritan who takes the old man Adam, (all of us before baptism), and anoints us with the oil/chrism of Baptism and pours the wine of His Blood at the Holy Mass into our souls to heal their wounds.  The inn keeper is Jesus’ priest, to whom he has entrusted the taking care of souls in the inn of His Church.322px-Church_Saint_Ouen+

We have much to learn about this parable for our own good.  First we need to remember that the devil, other demons, our bad family members and friends are waiting to rob us of sanctifying grace and to wound our souls.  Every time we seriously sin, the robbers do deep damage to our soul and our lives.  They also rob us of our dignity and peace, so that we no longer feel like children of God.  Then we have to recover, and it takes time and the problems our sin has caused are still there.

God is a loving, merciful God who will forgive us every time we are truly sorry and confess with a firm intention of not sinning anymore.  We turn to holy priests and holy friends who can help us as we begin to heal from our folly.  the-holy-sacrifice-of-the-mass2

But we do also want to learn our lesson.  Been there, done that, and I do not want to do it again.  That means making all precautions to never traveling on that dangerous road again where the robbers are waiting for us.  From now on we will be very careful to only travel with holy friends and to avoid anyone, anything or action that will lead us into sin.  Hopefully we will learn our lesson quickly, stay close to Jesus and Mary, go often to confessions and reception of the Holy Eucharist.

Only Living In The Present Moment, With God’s Help

Every one of us has a list of serious concerns right now, (or what we call problems).  Having problems is simply part of being human.  Believe it or not, everyone, no matter how it may appear, has problems, concerns and cares.

So there is IMMEDIATE HELP to help us deal with our problems.

  1. First, turn to God right now in prayer and trust, with blind faith, so that He will help us right now with our problems.  It may not be instantaneous, but He will show us a way to get through what we are now experiencing.
  2. Then, put these problems in perspective, so that you stop worrying and have PEACE right now.  That is what this article is about.

Anthony Dedicates his Life to God at Mass_MASTER of the OsservanzaSo the first thing to do is write down a list of everything that you are worried about right now, (use the list below as suggestions to get you personal list started).

I am worried right now about;

  • Our pope, cardinals, bishops, religious, priests,
  • Our Church,
  • Our country,
  • Our president,
  • My family,
  • My marriage,
  • Our children, grandchildren and godchildren,
  • Our friends,
  • My health,
  • My finances,
  • My job,
  • My soul,
  • My Temptations,
  • My vices,
  • My past,
  • My future,
  • My schooling.

Now take time to go over this list and write down exactly what it is that you are concerned about this problem.  Then put your worries in order, according to how serious or urgent the problem is.

Then go over this list, starting with the worst problem, with these criteria.

  • Am I absolutely sure this problem will happen?  When?
  • Do I have the resources, knowledge and intelligence to handle this problem?
  • Is there a solution I have forgotten about?
  • Who can I get to help me with this problem?
  • Am I making my problem bigger than it really is?
  • When will I begin, (not procrastinate), to deal with my problem?
  • Is this problem something I have no influence over and need to let go of?
  • When I worry about this problem, do I pray to God, Mary, the Angels, saints for help?
  • Does fear keep me from confronting my problems?
  • Are my fears realistic?
  • Have I overblown the problem?

Now you need to come up with a Godly attitude about the situation, or problem, you are so worried about.  Here is an example.  Say you are worried about your husband who has left you.  A Godly attitude will tell you to do all you can to be reconciled, but keeping in mind that you only can control your own actions, not his.

God Almighty from the Ghent Altarpiece_EYCK, Jan vanThe other very very important ATTITUDE to have is reminding ourselves that we only have this moment right now.  Ww have ABSOLUTELY NO CONTROL OVER WHAT COULD HAPPEN THE NEXT MOMENT.  Yes, we have control in the sense that we can make wise decisions right now on how we will live the next moment, but in all truth, we only have this moment.  We could die right now.  The people causing the problem could die, move, change their mind, repent, at any time too.  We worry so much about perceived problems that never end up occurring.

Be not therefore solicitous for tomorrow; for the morrow will be solicitous for itself. Sufficient for the day is the evil thereof.  Matthew 6:34.

The passage that comes right before this shows how to avoid problems and to receive from God what we need.

Seek ye therefore first the kingdom of God, and his justice, and all these things shall be added unto you. Matthew 6:33.

If we are seeking to serve Christ the King first in our life, then all else will eventually fall in place for our good.

So let us live in the present moment and right now, (and better yet, enjoy it), and stop worrying about the future that we have little to no control over.  God’s grace is sufficient for the present moment.  St.-Teresa-14

Let nothing disturb you,
Let nothing frighten you,
All things are passing away:
God never changes.
Patience obtains all things
Whoever has God lacks nothing;
God alone suffices.

— St. Teresa of Avila

Please keep your list of problems and concerns.  A week, a month, a year later, review it again.  You will be very surprised that most of what you were concerned about never came to anything and that somehow or other you pass through the rest, (hopefully with prayer for God’s help, good decisions and actions and the help of good people).

We are so blessed to be traditional Catholics and to know, that in the end, God is incharge and will take care of us and bring good out of all our sufferings and problems.  We are truly in HIs loving hands.

We also want to be there to listen to others who are going through difficult times and to give them Godly answers for their seemingly impossible situations.  Maybe you can send this to someone you know who is going through a hard time right now.  I have appreciated so much when people just listen to what I am going through.  I do not expect them to fix my problem.  I just appreciate that I was able to share my worries with someone else who cared.

Above all, pray for those who are going through difficult situations and problems.