Each person has his own cross. We only know of our own, or maybe the ones some people might have shared with us. But the reality is, most people are suffering in someway and alone. This is because they are afraid, ashamed or embarrassed to let others know that they are suffering or what they are suffering from. Some suffer alone because they are kind people who do not want to burden others with their suffering and problems.
The fact is that this includes most people that surround us right now; at church, home, school or work. They are suffering inside, from their own problems or of those who are dear to them. It could be any situation; marriage problems, sickness, depression, mental problem, vice, or financial difficulties that they are going through right now.
For this reason, we traditional Catholics need to be compassionate. We need to be kind and cheerful to everyone around us, even when we do not feel like it. We should try to listen and be there for those who are suffering. In this way we can be a small comfort to those who maybe suffering alone and in silence. Our prayers, love and concern, for these people, concretely help them endure and go on.
Jesus has suffered beyond our imagination. All His friends, the saints, have suffered greatly too. So it helps to meditate on how suffering is a good and not an evil.
‘The more you are afflicted, the more you ought to rejoice, because in the fire of tribulation the soul will become pure gold, worthy to be placed and to shine in the heavenly palace.’
St. Theresa Of Avila said:
‘I would always choose the path of suffering, if only to imitate Our Lord Jesus Christ, if there were no other gain.’
‘If you desire an efficacious remedy for trouble and inquietude of soul, invoke the holy name of Jesus.’
“Would that mortal men might know how wonderful is divine grace, how beautiful, how precious; what riches are hidden therein, what treasures, what joys, what delights. If they but knew, surely they would direct their energy with all care and diligence to procuring sufferings and afflictions for themselves. Instead of good fortune all men everywhere would seek out troubles, illness and suffering that they might obtain the inestimable treasure of grace. This is the final profit to be gained from patient endurance. No one would complain about the cross or about hardships coming seemingly by chance upon him, if he realized in what balance they are weighed before being distributed to men.”
- temptations,
- remorse,
- shame,
- bad thoughts,
that are the consequences of things we have done or seen in our youth: “Monkeys On Our Backs”. We, by our looking for prohibited, sinful pleasures and knowledge, put these monkeys there. And, in most cases, we will have to carry them around, and be harassed by “these monkeys on our backs” until we die.

- the devil,
- shame,
- bad thoughts
- bad dreams
- bad temptations.
Two good things about the suffering from the sins of our past life are that:
- they humbled us
- and remind us that we are sinners in need of Jesus’ forgiveness and grace to sin no more.
We are so blessed to be traditional Catholics and to be able to know where suffering comes from, what causes it, and how to offer it up with Jesus on the Cross, and Mary under the Cross.
The original author of this blog passed away in July of 2016. RIP Father Carota.